Each period of life characterized by a number of psychological characteristics that have a decisive influence on his behavior in society. The nature of the child depends on how it reacts around - some forms of behavior will cause he promotion, and other penalties. These reactions, in turn, lead to the consolidation of the psychological characteristics of the child or to change them. If the reactions of others exacerbate an existing problem of the child, then there are the most persistent mental disorders, while a vicious circle, which will only be able to break the restructuring of relations with the child.
If there is to be a loser syndrome, the main feature of the child's psychological - an increased level of anxiety. He was not sure of himself, constantly worried about something and worried. Any negative or negative evaluation of others will lead to increased levels of anxiety. Here are the situations that are perceived by ordinary children calmly, in a child with a high level of anxiety will cause stress.
Also worth noting is that the loser syndrome difficult decision - the child is too bad considering all the possible scenarios. As a result, increasing the level of anxiety affects all aspects of life.
In preparation for school, or at the very beginning of adults change their attitude towards failures and successes of the child, while the difficulties are almost always inevitable at the beginning of school, cause my parents sharply negative reaction. Such negative assessments of children's self-esteem and reduces anxiety levels increased, but these changes did not contribute to improved outcomes. On the contrary, the child begins to think of it beforehand, "as it will be bad if you get back 2" spends too much time on minor details of the job or refuses to very difficult task in his opinion.
Often the excessive demands of parents to child is the starting point to the formation of high anxiety. Perceptions of middle school success as a failure, leads to the fact that after the parents of the child begins to be considered as well. As a result of growing concern, and therefore - the real problems begin in school.
So, to infer the presence of a child syndrome, a loser, you must pay attention to the nuances of the following:
- Low achievement. Is not considered an objective picture, and the estimate given by the child's activity adults - teachers, parents.
- Restlessness, anxiety and self-doubt. As a rule, the greatest concern is with regard to the school.
- Overly high estimates of the importance of adults to children.
The constant state of failure over time leads to the formation of pessimistic sentiment, and often develop depression, which may occur by the end of primary school. At the age of the older - teenagers - are often performed rollover loser in the school area to the other spheres of life and self-generated totally successful person.
For index loser syndrome adults should give the child a feeling of success. It does not compare the results of a child with nothing but his own results, but if for some reason, the results are reduced, there is no need to scold the child - simply express confidence that everything will turn out tomorrow. It is important to find some area of activity in which the child will be able to realize themselves, even though it will not be directly related to their studies. And let them have long to wait for success - confidence and self-esteem of the child is worth it.
